STRATEGIES FOR CULTIVATING EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE (1)
To demonstrate an ability to recognize and understand emotions in yourself and others, and to exhibit an aptitude to use this awareness to manage your behavior and relationships, for enhanced effectiveness, is emotional intelligence. cultivating emotional intelligence is to enhance personal effectiveness.
1. Emotions define your reaction to the world around you; they come from somewhere. Understand why a person or situation draws out a reaction from you – the beliefs that he or she triggers within you; this will help you to get to the core of a feeling quickly, enabling you to redirect your thoughts, words and actions beneficially. Self-awareness helps you to understand what you excel in, what motivates you, what satisfies you, what you should be doing differently, and which people or situations subject you to stress. Understanding our dark and bright aspects help us to unfold our full potential.
2. Manage your emotions; don’t allow them to manage you.
3. Be honest about how you are feeling without being swept away by the emotions.
4. Be firm, calm, and compassionate in the face of a difficult situation.
5. Be accommodating and authentic at all times.
6. To respond more effectively when triggered, learn to read yourself and recognize your stress triggers.
7. Shorten the refractive period of your strong emotions by acknowledging it, allowing it and not rehashing its disempowering thought patterns. Cultivating emotional intelligence requires active awareness.
8. Be conscious of how you are perceived, to enable you to be deliberate in orchestrating who you want to be.
9. Use your awareness of your emotions to broaden your focus and lead your behavior positively.
10. For the optimal course of action to show itself, allow the uncertainty of fear as you explore your emotions and options.
11. To taste success, put your needs on hold and manage your tendencies diligently. Cultivating emotional intelligence enables us to escape being a prey to ineffectiveness.
12. Effectiveness comes to those who listen patiently and keep a high standard of conduct in view.
13. Resonate with the worthy habits of a proactive manager by learning to separate emotion from logic.
14. Cultivate the patience that leads to solutions in the face of anger.
15. Do not castigate or demonize someone who has a different opinion or idea. Cultivating emotional intelligence keeps on hand openness.
16. Avoid the temptation of speaking negatively behind people’s back.
17. Take the time to cool off and slow down before responding.
18. Do not allow your emotions to rule your behavior. Cultivating emotional intelligence encourages us to hold jubilee for self – control
19. Cultivating more patience, and giving a situation an opportunity to resolve itself before you react, leads to an optimal response.
20. When you give off stress, as a leader, it rubs off negatively on your team and, creates stress and negativity. At good, cultivating emotional intelligence is to realise that our perception, not external appearances, trigger our strong emotions and reactions.
21. Hold your emotions in check when your subordinates ventilate their own problems.
22. In the face of crisis, control your emotions and do not reveal it to everyone.
23. Learn to accurately pick up on the emotions of other people, understand what is really going on with them, and perceive what they are thinking and feeling even if you do not feel the same way.
24. Keep your ego at bay; listen well and observe what is going on around you.
25. Practice the art of watching people when you are interacting with them to get a good idea of what they are thinking and feeling; be conscious of their body language.
26. To watch others in their natural state without letting your own thoughts and feelings interfere with the observation is undiluted social awareness.
27. To be socially aware is to understand the emotions of others while being an active participant in an interaction.
28. Adapt to varying situations and build relationships with anyone.
29. Empathize with others, and relate to their frustrations and concerns.
30. Put yourself in another person’s shoes and view a particular situation from his perspective.
31. Learn to lead a conversation without appearing offensive or controlling, by artfully using open-ended questions.
32. Be sensitive to other people’s feelings when communicating a difficult news; be adaptive and flexible in your communicating style to foster effective solutions.
33. Develop sincere interest in understanding people, and in offering them valuable insights related to what they are saying or doing.
34. For the goal of fostering understanding, listen effectively and communicate clearly.
35. In establishing your authority, respect, motivate, uplift, and put people at ease.
36. The sequel to allowing others to feel good about their plans, even when you have a better plan, is effective social awareness.
37. Allow your patience to secure to other people the opportunity of having effective plans that are just different from your own.
38. Take to understanding what people are feeling and thinking, and noticing the relevant evidence before voicing your opinion and proffering solutions.
39. In an interaction, do not divide your attention between the words spoken by another person and the thoughts going on in your mind; pay attention first to the words being spoken.
40. Describe other people’s ideas clearly.
41. Rethink your hardened positions; listen to other people without being judgemental, and be accommodating of their viewpoints and inputs.
42. Avoid being caught up in your own thoughts and narrow aspects of issues during interactions, so that you can catch the opportunity to influence directions, trends, and opinions.
43. Connect with all sorts of People, including those you’re not fond of. The stronger the connection, defined by quality, depth, and time expended in interacting with another person, the easier it is to get your point across.
44. Create a safe and conducive atmosphere for your interactions on top of your understanding of other people and their emotions.
45. Do not overstep your bounds; ask just enough questions to unravel a situation before proffering suggestions and solutions.
46. Let your feedback engender morale-boosting confidence that inspires growth.
47. During difficult conversations, endeavor to maintain good, comfortable relationships with everybody involved; strive to discover the other person’s interest and steer conversation towards it when meeting, even if a deadlock is looming.
48. Get a firm grip on your emotions, and mentally capture what the other person is feeling, so you can set the stage for promoting understanding and influence.
49. Be an empathetic listener; be non-judgemental, and give people the benefit of doubt.
50. In the face of difficult questions, remain calm and answer without alienating anyone.
51. Listen carefully to what others are saying; transcend any feelings of irritation; respond kindly but with authority.
52. When you are dissatisfied with a specific outcome, express your position and expectations without the encumbrance of anger. Be direct but free from confrontation or souding out of control.
53. Be quick to praise the deserving efforts and success of your subordinates. To promptly set your words of appreciation to another is a good means of cultivating emotional intelligence.
54. Counsel in a compassionate and realistic manner with the big picture in view.
55. Develop a sentiment for collecting feedback before reaching decisions.
56. Explore the best way of communicating with others, even when resistance, confusion, or outright conflict is rife.