TO ELEVATE YOUR SELF-AWARENESS AND RID YOURSELF OF FALLACIES IS TO EXAMINE SPECIFIC THOUGHTS AND BELIEFS TRIGGERING YOUR REACTIVE EMOTIONS.
For you to understand your emotions as they are happening, you have to learn how to identify the physical changes that accompany your emotions, because mind and body are closely connected.
Rehearsing emotionally arousing events in your mind helps to increase your awareness of your emotions.
Your awareness of people who irk or push your buttons is crucial to mastering difficult situations, cultivating peace and equanimity in the midst of provocation. Your self-awareness minimizes the element of surprise and enhances your effectiveness.
Examining your reactive emotions, identifying specific thought and belief patterns sponsoring them, and realizing the fallacy at the core of those beliefs, are means of elevating your self-awareness.
Brooding only fans the flames of anger, and anger doesn’t really influence anyone to change. Effectiveness comes from calmly explaining the reasons why you are upset and any necessary remedial directive.
Journaling about your strong emotions, their attendant physical sensations, and triggers, helps to develop a better understanding of your tendencies and emotions.
Be vigilant! A persistent negative or dark mood enshrouds your thoughts, feelings, and experience in darkness, and draws in dissatisfaction.
When a down mood possesses you, delay making important decisions. Dwelling for too long on events that brought a negative mood upon you is not productive; addressing the beliefs triggered by those events and letting them go is often what brings relief.