YOU PUT ON THE MANTLE OF ARROGANCE AND DISEMPOWER OTHERS WHEN YOU USURP THEIR VOICE AND SPEAK FOR THEM.

When you hold yourself up to recognize the other person’s perspective and take it into consideration as you communicate, you enhance your effectiveness in interpersonal communication.

Your effectiveness in communication thrives in acknowledging and respecting the perspectives of those with whom you are involved with.

You take to affirming your relationships when you understand and appreciate both your standpoint and the other person’s own, in your communication.

The sense of being burdened by another person’s expectations or demands is entirely your own internal construct, not connected to any other person.

We make up our thoughts and feelings based on how we interpret other’s verbal and non-verbal communication. Others are not responsible for our responses.

Defensiveness from your interactant, a dampener to interpersonal relationship and communication, arises when you tell the other that he or she made you feel in a certain way.

Owning your thoughts and feelings facilitates effectiveness and progress in communication.

Taking responsibility for your feelings to promote change and open the door to dialogue, means using language that begins with the letter”I” rather than “you.”Examples are:

Retrogressive Language.                            Progressive Language That Promotes Dialogue and Change.

You wounded my soul.                                 I feel hurt when you shout at me.

To disparage what others say about what they feel and think is to get yourself off to ineffective communication.

You put on the mantle of arrogance and disempower others when you usurp their voice and speak for them.

You get out of a supportive role when you presume that you fully understand and grasp what is happening in someone else’s mind.

When you lay claim to emotional impressions connected to what you have not experienced before, and go on to share them with someone who has gone through that specific experience, you tend to make that person feel diminished.

The understanding between you and others broadens out when you invite them to clarify, extend or explain their points of view.